Sorry, not sorry.

Issue your apologies to people who truly deserve it, would value it and not seek to exploit it by turning it into a blackmail tool. Twice or thrice over the month did I apologize to a few friends because I valued our friendship more than the conflict, even when I wasn’t necessarily wrong. Guess what? They all became malicious, defensive…

Love me or set me free

We've been at this for some time, Holding on to the bond that binds us, as a newborn depends on his mother's breast to survive, Like twin sharing an umbilical cord in all accord. We've roared at each other like a thunder storming through the earth, And parted ways with anger, like lightning running through the sky, temporarily. You and…

Tales of My Misguided Emotion

Got something to share, the thought of it is already forming a cloud of emotions.  I remember this time last year. I was the happiest girl alive! I had everything I wanted, almost or so I thought. I had never been so happy, so much it made me delirious, so much I felt guilty for my state of utter bliss.…

Stop hurting, keep walking

Yesterday I was discussing with a client how some past terrible relationships are hindering me from being selfless and going all out for new partners. I shared a particular experience with her and she laughed hysterically, “I have been there. I tried to stop being nice and kind but it only reduced my creativity. I stopped loving myself because I…

Journey to the Future: Review (2018) By Nicole Adehi. Esq

Femi has always sent me stories for a while now and I’ve always found them insightful, so letting go of NGN2,000 wasn’t hard. The question was whether I would I even have the time to read it? I mean, I run a busy schedule. I met Sesan; Femi’s best friend (who delivered the book to me) and then I met…

Friendship: Standards and Sacrifices

Last night my brother told me, Constant communication will strengthen a relationship (friendship) but worthy sacrifices will take it farther. The first thought that popped into my mind was, it doesn’t matter how strong a bond appears, if it doesn't last then it is merely a facade of loyalty built on deceit. Yesterday I shared a question with my Whatsapp…

Selfless comes after self

There’s a Yoruba adage that translates, “the world will make a mockery of whom they carved you into today, tomorrow.” It is a solemn reminder that no matter how much love you have for people, self-love comes first. It is good to be selfless but it is wrong not to consider yourself adequately. The negative effect of doing otherwise is…

Expectations

I am not perfect and that humanely disqualifies me from judging others. Nonetheless, I am an emotional being and that means sometimes I feel a little too much, hence the essence of today’s post. To share a story of how people you prioritize don’t show the same commitment and how much it hurts, but to also liberate our minds of…

Love, Choice and Consequences

I had plans of blogging about an entirely different topic but that can wait for later, this can’t. It is burning my soul. Before I proceed I’d like to be clear on something, “if you want to love or be loved, don’t play hide and seek or procrastinate, love and allow yourself to be loved.” I am not commanding, I…

The Other Side of Femi Fragile 7

It’s okay to stop reading if the only way you will interpret this is through religion. I know what God expects of me. Read and don’t be a hypocrite. Its day 7, thanks for joining me. No one has even asked what I want for my birthday. Lmao! Be nice and ask.  Whenever I state that I have been single…

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