Breaking News

Tag Archives: Relationship

There will be no helper without the helped

When your dream eventually comes through, I want you to remember that you owe yourself the best life. Every other person comes after. Why? One of the cankerworm that feeds on success is the pressure that comes with wanting to attribute it to everyone you came across on that journey. Hence trying to conform to a lifestyle that pleases people ... Read More »

Stop hurting, keep walking

Yesterday I was discussing with a client how some past terrible relationships are hindering me from being selfless and going all out for new partners. I shared a particular experience with her and she laughed hysterically, “I have been there. I tried to stop being nice and kind but it only reduced my creativity. I stopped loving myself because I ... Read More »

Friendship: Standards and Sacrifices

Last night my brother told me, Constant communication will strengthen a relationship (friendship) but worthy sacrifices will take it farther. The first thought that popped into my mind was, it doesn’t matter how strong a bond appears, if it doesn’t last then it is merely a facade of loyalty built on deceit. Yesterday I shared a question with my Whatsapp ... Read More »

How to differentiate a love from a liar

Remember my piece on knowing who wants you? Yes! It wasn’t written because I had figured out how to spot someone who wants you in their lives. It was inspired by the slimy behaviour of spouses in a relationship: people who aren’t ready for a relationship but would rather disguise to be, with an unconscious purpose of passing time. There ... Read More »

Selfless comes after self

There’s a Yoruba adage that translates, “the world will make a mockery of whom they carved you into today, tomorrow.” It is a solemn reminder that no matter how much love you have for people, self-love comes first. It is good to be selfless but it is wrong not to consider yourself adequately. The negative effect of doing otherwise is ... Read More »

What love did to us

See what love did to us. We embraced the word but not its meaning and let it take charge of our emotions and humanity. We sought to maintain the status quo against all odds, and we got blinded to the hurt we were sowing. Love, it became an answer to all the questions I asked you. Love, it became an ... Read More »

SOAR WITH OTHERS

I was having an assessment of my life so far over the weekend. How far have I come? How did I get here? And most especially, why am I still standing? I’ve had help, thank God. After several hours of pondering about it, I came to the conclusion that I am unique. I am because despite what life has thrown ... Read More »

Expectations

I am not perfect and that humanely disqualifies me from judging others. Nonetheless, I am an emotional being and that means sometimes I feel a little too much, hence the essence of today’s post. To share a story of how people you prioritize don’t show the same commitment and how much it hurts, but to also liberate our minds of ... Read More »

Green Hostel 2 – 2

“Baba God? Kill your babe?” Prof muttered distortedly as he walked away, stopped abruptly then approached me again. This time making a mockery of the misunderstanding he created with his damning choice of words and infuriating me to the point of uncontrollable anger. “It is sad to see you express so much unbelievable naivety at such simple expression of grammar. ... Read More »